A word for you

A word for you

Closeness, connection and intimacy has very little to do
with words or understanding someone and has a lot to do with the energetic,
emotional, mirroring and reciprocating responses that communicate synchrony,
acceptance and validation.  Flat and/or
stone-cold facial expressions, verbal threats and violent reactions can easily
become the seeds for trauma.

Trauma literally changes the brains structure and function
and therefore changes the perception and experience of reality.

Some core components of trauma include:

  • A person’s feeling that the can’t do something
    or go somewhere.  They essentially feel
    stuck.  They don’t want to connect with
    people or get close to people and would rather stay in.
  • Things that should or normally would be scary or
    dangerous become compelling.
  • Things that should or normally would be
    considered healthy lose their attraction.
  • Things that should or normally would be
    considered painful become pleasurable and things that would/should be
    pleasurable become painful.

Because trauma is an experience, effective trauma treatment
requires less talking about the traumatic experiences or memories and
encourages more experiential methods to help the body and brain release what
seems or feels to be stuck.

The body records and stores everything we experience.  Pain from trauma can and often does manifest
itself in physical ways including but not limited to headaches, migraines,
stomach aches, sore throats, muscle tension, joint pain, etc.  Our muscles have web-like tissues in them call
facia that has been shown to become very tight and rigid from trauma and it is
these tissues that massage therapists work on to help people release the stored
or stuck energy associated with trauma.